It’s easy to be happy, grateful and at peace when things of the world seem to work in your favor. But even if all the things of the world are working in your favor now, how long are they going to stay that way? Which means, how long will it be until you are no longer happy, grateful and at peace?
When things of the world don’t seem to work in our favor, we tend do go into fight mode. Is there anything you are fighting against, resisting, or rejecting? It seems most of us are in this kind of fight mode most of the time. How can one who constantly fights expect to be at peace? It doesn’t matter whether you think your fight is justified or fair. Anytime you fight, resist and reject, you are saying no to life.
Look at it this way: you are always saying yes to something. But what are you saying yes to? You can say yes to fighting, resisting and rejecting what is, or you can say yes to grace. When you say yes to grace, you say yes to life without attaching any conditions to the yes. You say yes to all of it. Opening up to grace seems to require a lot of courage and trust, but it’s also the only sane way to live.
I accept my job, but also expect my boss to give me the recognition I deserve. I love my husband, but as long as he does this and not that. I’ll forgive you, but you have to apologize first. In all of these scenarios, we’re not actually saying yes to life at all because the yes is conditional. A conditional yes to life is basically a no to life because setting conditions on life is not accepting life, no matter how small or justified we think these conditions are.
To say yes to all of life is to open to grace and allow yourself to be guided by complete trust that you are exactly where you need to be. When you’re stuck in fight mode (which happens anytime you fight, resist or reject something that is), just pause and see if you can view the situation as an opportunity to learn something about yourself. And anytime you make such a choice — a choice to accept and learn rather than resist and stay stuck — you have opened to grace. As Brandon Bays says: “When you open to grace, you say yes to the whole river of life in all its permutations.”
This is not an attitude of passive resignation, but a declaration of complete trust in yourself. You know that there’s grace in whatever is taking place simply because you are part of what’s taking place. You don’t wait any longer for grace and power to show themselves to you from without because you know that you have all the power by being in a state of grace, which is never dependent on the things of the world.
You are the proof of grace. Grace is something you have become – it made you. (Douglas Brooks)
Starting the process of self-inquiry means inviting grace to guide you. And no matter where you evaluate yourself to be in this process, grace is always there because you are there. Sometimes we beat ourselves up for not aligning perfectly with our spiritual goals. We may even feel like we’re going backwards on our self-realization journey. But the moment you declare, whether in words or in the silence of your heart, that there must be a better way to live than the way the world has shown you, grace will be with you every step of the way. It’s impossible to go backwards because once you open to grace, you are given a gift of opportunity to bring grace into everything you do and to any situation you find yourself in.
You are the one who can bring grace into this world of fear and suffering. But you have to reach beyond this world to realize that there is grace in whatever seems to be taking place in this world. Your gift of grace transforms the most mundane situation into an expression of divine love because you have finally seen yourself as an expression of grace and divine love. You have said yes to your true self, and anything else has dissolved on its own.
Grace is acceptance of the Love of God within a world of seeming hate and fear. By grace alone the hate and fear are gone, for grace presents a state so opposite to everything the world contains, that those whose minds are lighted by the gift of grace can not believe the world of fear is real. (A Course in Miracles, W-169)